Who am I?
Being human, I’m an ass. Or, as Anthony de Mello states, "I'm an ass, you're an ass." I appreciate such a sentiment as it cuts-through all kinds of social constructs such as ethnicities, races, gender, and sexual orientation, positing that the belief systems within each are obsolete. It is a recognition that no matter any particular success or failure in life, no matter my own judgments, analysis, perceptions of said successes and failures, I am no less and no more than you. And vice-versa. In knowing that I'm an ass, and that you're one, too, I'm conveying that I am aware that life is messy as I've learned based upon personal and professional experience and I will do all that I am able to live as aware of reality as humanly possible. In owning my own asshood, I'm free to be in the moment without expectation either of self or other. Really, it can happen. I want to experience all that I do with compassion and empathy with the sole purpose of connecting and contributing rather than from the conditioned responses of reacting from fear and shame inherent in judgment.
In a fast-paced world with messaging that happiness and success is one-click away, can be discovered in a 20 minutes TED talk, if you only ingest more information, try something new, new exercise routine, meditate for 10 minutes, new diet, friends, job, you will find the solutions to your problems and be happy. Furthermore, we learn that by comparing self to other, we will find the answers to our problems, which only exacerbates a sense of separation and wrongness with self, hindering the very movement toward that which we seek, whatever that might be.
Having worked for the past 10 years as a licensed mental health counselor with an expertise in diagnosing, problem-solving, treatment planning and implantation, as well as my 40 plus years being alive within the context of my own glorious and asinine behaviors, I’ve learned how to thrive in life. And, although I’ve become quite the expert at fixing and diagnosing, it no longer serves me in the work that I'm called to do with other people.
To that end, I’m opening up for business as a Wellness Coach! I will not be offering psychotherapeutic services although I will maintain my licenses to practice as it is a useful way for me to continue with ongoing education in the field of psychology as well as to engage in occasional work in community health settings.
Life is simple until we perceive belief for reality